Every parent experience some level of Parental Guilt at some point or another. It is okay to have those feelings. Please know that it does not label you a ‘bad parent’. How we channel these emotions that we deal with after shouting, disciplining, or issuing consequences will help us to not feel like a ‘bad parent’. I want to share with you the approach I have decided to take to move me beyond parental guilt.

When I was young, I remember having to walk to school in very extreme weather. I remember wearing a lot of layers to stay warm. Also stopping in public places to get out of what felt unbearable at the time. I did not like it, but it was the way life was for us as children. My son shared similar childhood experiences too because I thought pushing through mom guilt was the only way to combat the guilt. What did I do?

Acknowledge

Over the years I have realized talking about the way I am feeling as a parent after demonstrating my authority is very helpful in acknowledging where I am. Owning the mental space I am in help to withstand the guilt I sometimes feel after issuing a consequence to my children. Telling myself that it is okay to have these emotions extends grace to me until it passes. Being honest with myself and knowing that I am still learning and growing even as a parent. This mindset helps me to see not just where my children make mistakes, but where I falter as well. I know all of the above might put me in a vulnerable place, and that’s okay too. I want my children to see the real hero that is in me.

Making a Difference

I believe this is how we can truly make a difference, by acknowledgment and ownership. Making a difference will look different for every parent. You are the only one who knows what you need to do to execute change for you and your children. Today mine is acknowledging where I am, what is yours today?

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