Hello Everyone! When you walk out to see weeds in your lawn what is your first reaction? It is so tempting to just yank them up by the roots, to remove those unsightly things right. When our Children’s Behavior is out of control, what is our first reaction? We might have yank them in hope to root out what has become a “inappropriate/bad behavior’. I thought with weeds the best thing is to pull them up, not knowing that this only cause more work. A Weed is a plant that tends to be undesirable in a particular place. They tend cause a lot of problems later if not tended to early. And so I find this statement to be true about children behaviors. When our children are infants and toddlers everything just seem to be so ‘cute’. The unfortunate part is we tend to over look some behaviors in those cute moments too. We are not looking seven or tens years later when our children have more of a ‘voice’. Honestly we just want to enjoy them in that moment, and there’s is nothing wrong about that either.
There are some behaviors that children display very early that I think we have to put boundaries on so these behaviors don’t become difficult later . Talking back, Tone of voice, shouting, stomping his/her feet when upset, inappropriate language, and hitting are just a few of the behaviors that we see in early childhood. Some of these behaviors are associated with play, growth, and development. What I mean by this statement is children don’t always learn these behaviors because we as parents model the behaviors, but they learn as the are growing and discovering life. Children discover his/her own voice, they learn to communicate, and they learn to be more in control of their body as they discover to walk. As children are maturing they test out these behaviors to get results. In these stages we need to guide our children in understanding what is/isn’t appropriate behavior, so it is not problematic later. If we don’t want weeds we have to kill them so they don’t poison or plants, taint our food, and harbor insects and diseases in our garden. And so it is with our children behaviors, if we don’t want them to become troublesome later we have to put boundaries on these behaviors early. Hope this post was helpful to you. Please share your comments below. Don’t forget to Subscribe and join my email list. Thanks!
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